His Ph.D. is in Hypocrisy

… and other Poems about my Crappy Ex-Boyfriend

Everyone comes into your life for a reason. And even though they may stay just long enough to break your heart, their ultimate purpose can last a lifetime.

His PhD is in Hypocrisy CoverAuthor: Tayo Oredein
Title: His Ph.D. is in Hypocrisy … and other Poems about my Crappy Ex-Boyfriend
Published On: Mar 2014
Genres: Humor, Poetry, Romance
Publisher: Gynarchy
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They say everything happens for a reason, but try telling that to a young woman with a newly broken heart.

His PhD is in Hypocrisy…And Other Poems about My Crappy Ex-Boyfriend is a memoir of sorts; a collection of poems chronicling the ups and downs, differences and the dissolution of one of my key relationships. Despite our interracial backgrounds (I'm black, he's white & Palestinian) and inter-religious upbringings (he is Muslim to my Christian), I thought we could and would end up together. But that didn't happen. The assorted poems (some short, some funny, some angry) talk about the love, frustration, and heartbreak, and the whole reflection culminated in an unexpected life lesson that surfaced on 9/11.


A Rite of Passage           March ‘00

How could he share himself with so many?

His number rising exponentially

in college when he cheated on his ex

Using it as a scapegoat to deal with his feelings

and as a means to hurt her,

while pleasing himself for the moment

Perhaps there was more to his promiscuity

Maybe the notches in his belt

made up for an insecurity

by filling as many holes as he could,

somehow he was filling the one in his soul

How else could you engage in the physical act of love

with someone you hate so much

that you cringe when they speak?

That you book it out of there

the very moment after you peaked?

But maybe his intent there

was to hurt and humiliate,

To take something precious from them

and after, why not sleep with her roommate?

Being with him doesn’t mean you’re special

It doesn’t mean he likes or cares for you either

It’s not a privilege, more like a rite of passage

Making me wonder, are things really different with me

or is it just my turn to be his piece of ass

About Tayo Oredein

Tayo Oredein is a model, actress and writer. Tayo (pronounced Ty~yo, and which means “Joy” in Yoruba) is from Jamaica Queens, NY though and is of African-American and Nigerian descent (her father is Nigerian). She went to Wellesley College in Wellesley, MA and returned to New York after graduation. She later received a graduate degree from Hunter College, and will soon receive another from Rutgers University
After years of flirting with it, she officially started modeling in 2011 when she was handpicked to be a model for Monica Holder’s “Beauty of the Month” project. Since then she has been featured in online promotional materials, shorts and music videos, greeting card lines, coffee-table books, fashion shows, and other projects.
As for her writing, she has long since had a collection of unpublished work, but recently published her first book, “His PhD is in Hypocrisy and Other Poems about My Crappy Ex-Boyfriend”, a collection of poems about love, and love lost. It is available on Amazon.com (where it’s also available for Kindle), BN.com, and other online retailers.